Dad's Eulogy - Funeral 31st March 2016
2016 March 31
Created by Suzanne 8 years ago
Standing here today is
probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do but I know dad would have been
very proud of me. He spent all my life encouraging me to do the hard
things, the challenging things, the brave things, the things that would
make me stronger and never to shy away from doing what was right. You may
recognise that saying " do what is right' because he always tried to live
by that rule and it dictated his life choices.
In his final days he
spent with me in my home the TV was a regular companion as it always had been
to him. He watched old cowboy movies where the hero was clear and obvious and
stood up for the down trodden, was a steadfast friend and always did the right
thing. I think that's also how he lived his life in many ways - By the
rules from those old movies.
Many of you will have
heard him say that he was an engineer and had an engineers mind. That meant all
his life he was inventing and looking for new ways to do things and fixing
things for himself and others. As a child I knew just how much my daddy
could fix anything - apparently when my nana dropped an egg and was by most
upset I said "don't worry nana daddy can fix it". He made so
many things from scratch - the garden was an adventure playground with things
he made for me, my trampoline, a 2 story Wendy house and def slide. He
loved to use his creations to save money and one of his favourite things on a
bright sunny day was a neck deep hot bath that was free from the sun panels.
Even to his last days he was fixing things and solving problems - he had me tie
a piece of string onto the tv remote control so he wouldn't keep losing it when
he was in bed. I worried he would get it wrapped round his neck in bed - he
gave me the look.
He had many
idiosyncrasies and on a trip in the Canadian canoe he built my husband Mathew
got to experience one of those. After rising the rapids down the river ribble
together they stopped half way down and pulled out a little chilly. Dad
handed Matt a cup of tomato soup and to matts shock it looked and tasted a
little weird. "What have you done to that Bruce?"... "It's tomato soup with milk in
it lad! "
As well as being my
dad he had many different lives and life experiences and his adventurous spirit
and love of North America drove him always to want to return. His
apprenticeship at Leyland motors gave him the opportunity to emigrate to
Montreal and onto San Francisco in the 60's. I was always fascinated and found
it hard to imagine that my parents at such a young age set off across the ocean
to start a new life.
He really loved his
time spent in Calgary with his Canadian friends and the 15 years spent
travelling around California and America with Enid were some of his happiest.
The friends he met on his trip down the Grand Canyon in 1984 became lifelong
friends and he was always the Leaping Limey to them.
He loved to share his
adventures and meet up with his friends to "really talk" - that meant
intense debate with facts and detail and using the huge amount of information
that he held in his head. I'm sure you've all been party to some of those
debates - usually he was right in an annoying kind of way.
He was most sad that
he wouldn't be able to take his grandsons - Ben and Evan to those places he
loved the best. He wanted me to tell them about him and he spent the last few
trips away with The Bear taking pictures for Ben and Evan to be placed in a
pocket in its bum. I'll make sure they know you dad and see those places.
You'll be glad to know that The Grandad Walmsley Memorial trail is going to be
created with a little piece of you in those special places for them to visit,
the Grand Canyon, Yosemite, San Francisco and along Big Sur. We'll visit all
the time and they will love them just like you did.
I have been contacted
since his death my so many friends and his friendship was something they all
cherish and miss - he was many things my dad but I thing the thing he was the
most was a good friend. I'm sure many of you have had a few good turns from him
and your presence here is a great tribute to his hard work, commitment to doing
the right thing for us all and being him.
This morning broke
with perfect clear blue skies that would have inspired dad to get in the car
and drive. If he was here today we'd be off yo the lakes or driving round his
favourite places in north wales. In my sadness I hold one thought in my mind
that I hope will help you all today. He's not really gone he's just in another
place doing what he loved best - driving on the open roads, under perfect blue
skies loving his England, this green and pleasant land, or his California and
commenting to Ben and Evan in the video camera. He'll be knocking on your
door any time for a cup of tea - in a pint cup of course.
I've heard him say
this many many times as he left somewhere so I think it's the best thing for me
to end on - .... I love you and miss you so very much but it's time for
your next journey - so Dad "take your last look at sunshine and brook and
send your regrets to the czar......"